Comments on: Being Likable Isn’t Nice (And Other Subtle Manipulations)

By: Ran

Ran — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 18:59:29 +0000

I believe in the military policy “Obey first before you complain!”. It’s the same thing when in the work place, manifestation of obedience must be observed all the times. Complaints without any work is really a waste of time and energy. It’s an indication of laziness!
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By: Tiffany George

Tiffany George — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 03:22:02 +0000

I really enjoyed this post. I think that being likeable in a business sense is a good characteristic to have. It allows people to know that on a personal level you are nice but when it comes to business it is just that. I believe that in the workplace, many people just want to get through the day and get it over with. Unless you have a sincere passion for what you do, the hum drum of doing a service can create boredom, which may be expressed with a poor attitude, or even an “unlikeable” persona. Overall, I really feel as if we shouldn’t be quick to judge people as their true character, like me or not, will come out eventually.

By: iris

iris — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 20:57:45 +0000

Sure, likeable is definitely a good characteristic to have, but I think that “being likeable” is more of a personality, as in whether one is an introvert or an extrovert, or if one has the “people skills” or not. There are many sincere and wonderful individuals who may not initially be thought of as “likeable” because they do not have the smooth “people skills” or the extroverted nature that allows them to “work the room” and make everyone feel happy. Of course, there are the “manipulative” ones who seem to scheme things more than being sincere, but as for being likeable or not, I tend to think its more of a popularity contest than an individual’s true character… which, of course, will come out after knowing that individual for a longer period.

By: Karalyn Brown

Karalyn Brown — Sun, 02 May 2010 09:34:41 +0000

Interesting post. I clicked on this post as the title intrigued me. I think people can see though genuine nice, nice to get ahead, and nice/needy nice so people like you. Being genuine nice can mean being genuinely honest and that’s probably not really likable sometimes.

By: Dr. Manoj Paruthi

Dr. Manoj Paruthi — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 07:02:38 +0000

Well said. Being nice could be the way of life but being likable is a skill that once developed can help one make his way in his professional life. On the other hand one could be taken for a ride for being nice while dealing with people who are manipulative.

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By: larryheard

larryheard — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 02:08:18 +0000

Being likable for me is getting the job done and meet the objective as long as it is feasible. Why waste time and energy in arguing or complaining. For me, if they know it can be done yet they are complaining, it is just a lazy excuse.